End of Life
I support people who are nearing the end of their life to die with dignity and respect. I also guide the family through the transition so they can cope with their loss.
The death of a loved one is the most extreme loss that someone will ever experience. There are no rulebooks on how to grieve. Everyone is going to experience grief in their own way. Allowing yourself to feel your feelings and express your emotions is the only way to heal. The truth is that the only way out is to go through the pain. We think that we want to avoid grief, but it is the pain of the loss that we want to avoid. Grief is the healing process that brings comfort in our pain. Many believe death is the end of the relationship and the love is gone. Just because someone has died does not mean they are not with you. Yes, they are physically gone but their soul lives on. Realizing this can bring comfort and hope for the future.
CEREMONY & RITUAL
When we hold a ceremony or perform a ritual, we are working at the soul level. This realm is not mental so we cannot logically figure our way out of it. We surrender to the mystical that the ancient traditions of Buddhists, Hindus, Egyptians, Celtics, and Indigenous Peoples talk about. Ceremonies or rituals should represent the person’s religious or spiritual backgrounds. They can be as simple as placing a photo of the deceased and lighting a candle on a table. Perhaps you have a specific time everyday where you connect with the person by playing their favourite music. People can create a beautiful altar with photos, flowers and mementos that the deceased loved. Maybe you decide to have a flower ritual at a river, lake, or ocean, by dropping flowers in the water with the intention to let go and find peace. Or you may decide to create a prayer bundle which represents the person’s life. All ceremonies and rituals honour the deceased person’s life in an extremely intimate way and are unifying for the family.
So many issues come to the surface as we process our loss. Often grief can carry resentment towards the deceased because we believe that they have abandoned us. We can be so angry and furious that they abandoned us when their passing had nothing to do with us. Often this resentment is not expressed to the one who has passed and instead it can get projected onto family and friends. This is shifting our anger away from the dead to the living. Sometimes survivors will get so angry that they start a feud with other family members because they are holding onto the deceased and will not accept their death. Some become bitter — they are angry at God, life, and anyone who dares to be happy. Often anger, resentment, and rage are expressed when there is unfinished issues that were not dealt with when the person was alive. They believe that there is no hope. Guilt is commonly experienced over and over again. Perhaps the person feels that there was something that they could have done better or differently. Guilt can drive people to despair and the only way out is to address what is going on. Many who are grieving will try to hide it because it makes their family or friends uncomfortable. Often there is a lot of time spent alone obsessively thinking about the deceased. Isolation happens when someone shuts down and pulls away from their friends and loved ones. Life is too stimulating and they are unable to cope. These issues are very complex and often a person needs help. Coaching, natural remedies, and energy techniques will help the person get to the root of their issues so that they can heal and find joy in life again.
LETTING GO & FINDING PEACE
Letting go and finding peace is a process. It does not happen overnight and to believe it will is unrealistic. Our Western culture loves quick fixes but this is a journey which takes time. Many will feel numb, take drugs, or distract themselves believing they can avoid their grief. They are fooling themselves because their loss is always there waiting for them to deal with it. Grief is very patient and will wait until the person is ready. When people are not able to let go and allow themselves to experience loss, they will suffer. Many will be affected by their suffering as it will touch every relationship that they have. Letting go does not mean that you forget your loved one — that will never happen. When someone is able to surrender, they begin to explore the pain that they are experiencing and allow it to have a voice. The way out of the pain is through it. Seeking the help of a grief coach will bring awareness. Having a supportive person to guide you will help heal and bring peace back into your life.
The body is always communicating with us and pain is one of the ways it gets our attention. Many experience pain such as achy joints, rashes, headaches, twitches, exhaustion, yawning, coughing, or having flu like symptoms. The body is grieving and expressing itself. By ignoring the symptoms, the pain will progress and the person will suffer more. Medical professionals will often offer pharmaceutical drugs which can get the person over the initial stages. The problem is that they do not work over the longterm and they never address the causes of the grief. The body has so much wisdom. It is constantly communicating and its messages are powerful if you are willing to listen. There are many natural remedies that can be used along with coaching that will get to the root of the grief. Being brave and asking for help is the first step in the person’s healing process. This way they can have lasting results and find peace.
ANXIETY & OVERWHELM
Grieving causes the nervous system to flare and go into overdrive. This high stress state can suppress many of the systems of the body, specifically the person’s emotional state. When someone is stressed, their nervous system flares and goes into overdrive, causing a default pattern to occur. They will be triggered to either fight, flee, or freeze. These responses are not meant to last for long periods. When they do, they suppress the body’s ability to heal because the body cannot heal when it is in a stressed state (default pattern). Emotionally, the person may feel overwhelmed by everyday life and anxious about the future. These emotions exhaust the body, which result in the person shutting down from their life. Natural remedies, breathing, energy techniques, and developing ways to calm the nervous system, specifically the emotions, will help the person to find balance and restore their health.
LOVE NEVER DIES
Many believe that death is the end of the relationship with their loved one. Why do we think that when someone dies it is the end? Where did these ideas come from? The bigger question is — are they true? Science is beginning to understand that we are consciousness and energy, something the mystics have known forever. Einstein proved energy exists forever. Based on this fact, we know that the body will cease to exist but our consciousness or soul never dies. Our love for each other does not die when someone passes. The dying are still with us, just in a different form. We are still connected and continue to love each other. This realization can bring enormous relief to the family and help them find peace.
RECONNECTING WITH LOVED ONEs
Death is not the end. Relationships do not have to end. If someone choses, they can be taught how to connect and dialogue with their loved one after they have passed. Many people have experiences where they can hear or feel their loved one’s presence. While others simply know that their loved one is with them. Often people do not share these experiences for fear of being told they are imagining it or that they just can’t let the deceased go. This is far from the truth. Why wouldn’t our loved ones still want to communicate with us? Have they crossed some threshold where we are not allowed? Nothing is farther from the truth. When we can relax and allow ourselves to expand into a meditative state, we can connect and communicate with them. Allow and trust the experience you are having. Everyone experiences connection in a different way. It depends on which sense is stronger for each person. Feeling, seeing, smelling, hearing, or knowing are how we connect with our loved ones. Wouldn’t it be amazing if you could heal your unfinished business with your deceased loved ones? Or connect to ask for advice as you would have when they were alive? Perhaps you want to see how they are and feel their love. Connecting shifts the person’s perception of grieving, their pain lessens as they realize that their relationship with their loved one continues in a different way. If you are interested in learning how to connect and communicate with your loved one after passing, contact me.
Cycles of Life
And How They Affect Your Health
Circle of Life Centre is designed to bring together various holistic healing modalities located in a natural setting. The mission of the Centre is to support those who are either beginning their journey in life or are in their twilight years. At the Centre we take you through a journey of healing based on where you are in your life. You may be at the beginning and starting a new life with your partner and baby. On the other hand, you or someone you love is at the end of life. It does not matter where you are on life’s journey. There is always support.
Janet Katalinic“Not only does Robyn have an innate sense of understanding what it means to suffer loss and have compassion for the topic of grief based on her own vast personal experiences but she has an amazing arsenal of coping strategies that she draws upon to help you with your own individual situation such as she did when helping me with coping with my ailing mother. In particular, she has helped me be self-aware and control the way I react to my mother to keep peace within myself rather than fight a situation that can’t be changed. This has been both very healing and inspiring, allowing me to spend my energy in a more positive, meaningful way.”
Nicole Seeger“Robyn has a true gift helping people with her plant medicine wisdom. Her rich experience, education, practical and intuitive understanding of what is needed when is unparalleled. She has helped myself, my husband and both of my kids to heal infections, colds, flus and supported us during times of grief and trauma. She has also been a wealth of wisdom when it comes to applying her vast knowledge for our general emotional, mental and physical wellbeing. It’s such a blessing to have Robyn’s loving and caring hands and deep wisdom close by to support and heal us whenever needed.”
Valri Cunningham“Robyn has very soothing energy and it has been very easy for me to open up to her. She puts you at ease in the first moments of meeting her. She is a pleasure to work with.”
Trudy Jakobsen“I have known Robyn Wyman for over 16 years. We met at Douglas College where we both were studying Aromatherapy. Robyn’s honesty and integrity shows in all endeavours she pursues. She has a gift of imparting her knowledge to others, showing a more natural and healthy way of living by using and making products that are not harmful to our bodies or the environment. A natural born healer of mind, body, and spirit.”
Marie Chang“I came to see Robyn after my brother passed away suddenly. I was shocked and going through the usual emotions of losing a loved one; anger, sadness, and great sense of loss. Robyn showed great caring and understanding and helped me to feel supported by listening, applying Natural Healing techniques and determining what I needed at that time. I think anyone suffering from grief and loss could benefit from what she has to offer.”
Alannah Leigh, Doula“I needed an Essential Oil Kit for my birth bag and I was so glad to have worked one-on-one with Robyn on this custom order. She has such in-depth knowledge. I was blown away on how well she knew what essential oils I would need and the particular dosages required to be safe for babies and pregnant mothers.”
Susan Wright“Robyn has helped me gain insight, wisdom, and profound healing through my grieving process. After losing both my parents in a short period of time, I was seeking information and guidance to navigate unresolved feelings rooted in trauma. She is an amazing resource of knowledge, and her unique abilities have been invaluable to me. Thank you Robyn.”
Leanne Labadie“Robyn’s healing energy is warm, grounded and nurturing. She has an angelic nature about her. I am going through a situation with a loved one and it has been very stressful and trying on me. Robyn has helped me to see that I am grieving what was and she has encouraged me to be present, grounded and to stay focused on the bigger picture. I am grateful for her wisdom and awareness. She is a gifted healer.”
Just as the fern gently unfolds to expand into its beautiful fullness, our hearts are spiralling into the truth that we are one.
- Robyn Wyman -