End of Life
I support people who are nearing the end of their life to die with dignity and respect. I also guide the family through the transition so they can cope with their loss.
FINAL STAGES OF DEATH
CREATING A PEACEFUL, CALM, AND SAFE SPACE
Creating a peaceful and sacred space for the person who is dying is so important whether they have chosen to die at home, are in palliative care, or in hospice. Remember to talk to your loved one about what they want — not what you think they want. If you are able, remove all toxic substances from the environment and replace them with natural alternatives. Having soothing music playing and diffusing a specific scent will calm the mood and bring relief to the person. Be aware that light can be intense and irritate their eyes. Drawing the blinds and soft lightening will bring relief. It may be comforting to read a book or recite some poetry. Ask the person and listen to what they want. Being heard can help calm their anxiety and soothe them.
SUPPORTING THROUGH THE FINAL STAGE
Often the dying person floats between their physical reality and that of an etheric expanded reality. They seem to be in two realms of existence, the physical and non-physical at the same time. It is important to know that healing can occur even if there is no hope of a cure. Surround the dying person with loving kindness, talk openly and honestly, and be present. Often loved ones will feel overwhelmed and not know what to do as death nears. They may start being fussy or distracted while other family members may cry uncontrollably. While the dying person needs to know that people care, too much disruption can make them suffer more. Often the most powerful thing you can do is sit calmly, hold space, and love them.
Energy techniques can be used to gently move the dying person’s energy. Many people know about healing touch but there are many other modalities such as reiki, ama deus, sound, aroma, angels, and crystals. It is very important that the chakras be cleansed of toxic energy that have been accumulated throughout the person’s life. If they are open, family members can be taught how to clear and cleanse chakras, gently sweep the dying person’s energy field, and use energy techniques that will calm and soothe. They can also use these techniques on each other. We are very complex beings and much more than a physical body. Energy healing is subtle and works on our mental, emotional, and spiritual body.
Change happens every moment throughout the day, sometimes it is blessed and sometimes it is raw and painful. The more we hold on and think we can control the situation, the more we all suffer. Death is a huge transition. It’s letting go of the life you have known and entering the unknown. Although it is difficult, you must give permission to your loved one to die. If you do not, they will hold on thinking that you are not ready and will endure unnecessary suffering. Receiving permission from those closest to the dying person are the most important. Family members who have the hardest time letting go are often the ones who have unfinished business with the dying person and issues around their own death.
Death rites have been performed for centuries and many cultures throughout the world still do them such as the spiritual men and women of Tibet and the Americas. In Western culture there has not been many teaching around this and we have forgotten the meaning of the death rites. We have left the death of our loved ones to the medical professionals and funeral staff. These final rites are performed after the person has died and a loving family member can be taught how to complete them. At the point of death, the Luminous Energy Field / Aura is released by disengaging the chakras in a death spiral. Then the chakras are sealed. This can be a beautiful experience for the family and one that will bring them peace because they know their loved one is safe, healed, and whole. If you are interested in learning how to perform death rites, contact me.
HONOURING THE BODY
For guidance, the family can explore the loved one’s religious and spiritual beliefs. Honouring the body is done by lovingly washing it with rose water and then anointing it with specific essential oils. Dressing the body in their favourite clothes, grooming them, and placing their favourite things with them helps the family to feel connected. Some may wish to tell stories and celebrate while others may wish to contemplate quietly, just respect each other. This is a precious time when the family can come together to honour their loved one in an extremely intimate way.
LOVE NEVER DIES
Two of the biggest fears around death are what is going to happen to me and will I be remembered? Why do we think that when someone dies it is the end? Where did these ideas come from? The bigger question is — are they true? Science is beginning to understand that we are consciousness and energy, something the mystics have known forever. Einstein proved energy exists forever. Based on this fact, we know that the body will cease to exist but our consciousness or soul never dies. Our love for each other does not die when someone passes. The dying are still with us just in a different form, we are still connected, and continue to love each other. If the family is open to this concept, they can discuss how their loved one can give them a sign after they have passed. Realizing that their loved one lives on will bring enormous relief to the family. They can be taught how to connect and dialogue with each other after the loved one has passed. If you are interested in learning how to connect and communicate with your loved one after passing, contact me here.
SUPPORTING MEDICAL & HOSPICE STAFF
Communication is the key as death nears and working with health care providers will bring peace at this time. Your loved one’s comfort is all that is important now. The medical staff will monitor your loved one and will know the signs that death is nearing. Being present throughout the final stages and supporting your loved one in a calm, loving way will make the transition gentler for everyone.
Cycles of Life
And How They Affect Your Health
Circle of Life Centre is designed to bring together various holistic healing modalities located in a natural setting. The mission of the Centre is to support those who are either beginning their journey in life or are in their twilight years. At the Centre we take you through a journey of healing based on where you are in your life. You may be at the beginning and starting a new life with your partner and baby. On the other hand, you or someone you love is at the end of life. It does not matter where you are on life’s journey. There is always support.
Leanne Labadie“Robyn’s healing energy is warm, grounded and nurturing. She has an angelic nature about her. I am going through a situation with a loved one and it has been very stressful and trying on me. Robyn has helped me to see that I am grieving what was and she has encouraged me to be present, grounded and to stay focused on the bigger picture. I am grateful for her wisdom and awareness. She is a gifted healer.”
Susan Wright“Robyn has helped me gain insight, wisdom, and profound healing through my grieving process. After losing both my parents in a short period of time, I was seeking information and guidance to navigate unresolved feelings rooted in trauma. She is an amazing resource of knowledge, and her unique abilities have been invaluable to me. Thank you Robyn.”
Alannah Leigh, Doula“I needed an Essential Oil Kit for my birth bag and I was so glad to have worked one-on-one with Robyn on this custom order. She has such in-depth knowledge. I was blown away on how well she knew what essential oils I would need and the particular dosages required to be safe for babies and pregnant mothers.”
Marie Chang“I came to see Robyn after my brother passed away suddenly. I was shocked and going through the usual emotions of losing a loved one; anger, sadness, and great sense of loss. Robyn showed great caring and understanding and helped me to feel supported by listening, applying Natural Healing techniques and determining what I needed at that time. I think anyone suffering from grief and loss could benefit from what she has to offer.”
Trudy Jakobsen“I have known Robyn Wyman for over 16 years. We met at Douglas College where we both were studying Aromatherapy. Robyn’s honesty and integrity shows in all endeavours she pursues. She has a gift of imparting her knowledge to others, showing a more natural and healthy way of living by using and making products that are not harmful to our bodies or the environment. A natural born healer of mind, body, and spirit.”
Valri Cunningham“Robyn has very soothing energy and it has been very easy for me to open up to her. She puts you at ease in the first moments of meeting her. She is a pleasure to work with.”
Nicole Seeger“Robyn has a true gift helping people with her plant medicine wisdom. Her rich experience, education, practical and intuitive understanding of what is needed when is unparalleled. She has helped myself, my husband and both of my kids to heal infections, colds, flus and supported us during times of grief and trauma. She has also been a wealth of wisdom when it comes to applying her vast knowledge for our general emotional, mental and physical wellbeing. It’s such a blessing to have Robyn’s loving and caring hands and deep wisdom close by to support and heal us whenever needed.”
Janet Katalinic“Not only does Robyn have an innate sense of understanding what it means to suffer loss and have compassion for the topic of grief based on her own vast personal experiences but she has an amazing arsenal of coping strategies that she draws upon to help you with your own individual situation such as she did when helping me with coping with my ailing mother. In particular, she has helped me be self-aware and control the way I react to my mother to keep peace within myself rather than fight a situation that can’t be changed. This has been both very healing and inspiring, allowing me to spend my energy in a more positive, meaningful way.”
Just as the fern gently unfolds to expand into its beautiful fullness, our hearts are spiralling into the truth that we are one.
- Robyn Wyman -