Beginning of Life
I support women during the transition of pregnancy to parenthood who believe in using natural methods because they realize that birth is a natural process.
LABOUR & DELIVERY
Childbirth is an amazing natural process and many babies are born daily without the use of drugs, or natural remedies such as herbs and essential oils. Sometimes women do need help and it is my belief that natural remedies can be used to support and provide comfort during labour and childbirth. If the choice has been made to use natural remedies during labour then talk to your health care provider so that everyone is in agreement and supports you.
This is the first phase of labour where the cervix dilates to 4 centimetres (1.6 inches), this is the longest phase of labour lasting many hours and sometimes days. Symptoms can be mild contractions, spotting, mucus discharge, loose bowels, and water breaking. During this stage, most women carry on with their normal routine. My advice is to keep moving the body, go for a walk, do some gentle yoga, and focus on your breath. Just remember to stay close to home.
This phase follows early labour where the cervix dilates between 5 and 8 centimetres (2-3 inches) and has many of the same symptoms. The contractions will be more intense and may be longer in duration. Many women find this takes their full attention. Frequent showers or bathing, smelling and applying specific essential oils, and focusing on your breath will bring relief and help soften and expand the cervix.
Back labour is when you are experiencing intense pain on the lower area of your back. It is caused by the position of the baby and the pressure placed on the lower back. Specific essential oils gently massaged on the back, a heat pack, moving positions, or a warm bath can ease your pain.
This phase is the shortest period where the cervix fully dilates to 10 centimetres (4 inches). It’s a very trying time for the mother and symptoms can include; nausea, vomiting, vaginal pressure, urge to push, shaking, and strong intense contractions. This phase takes your full concentration and there is little time to rest between contractions. Using breathing techniques, vocal expression, specific essential oils, sipping water, and having a supportive and encouraging team will help you through this phase.
Labour is exhausting and very trying. As the labour progresses, the contractions get intense and you may be experiencing a number of symptoms. Breathing, inhaling and applying specific essential oils, and resting between contractions will give you the energy to keep going.
This is called the pushing phase. You will feel a lot of pressure on the vagina and rectum and have a great urge to push. Try to relax your body rather than tensing it through the contractions. As the baby comes out of the vagina, there may be a burning sensation – this is called crowning. It is also called “the ring of fire” because of a burning sensation. During this phase, it is important to stop pushing and instead breath to lessen the sensation of burning. This will aid in lessening the chances of tearing the tissues. After the baby is born, it needs to be held close to the mom’s body, to nurse and to be touched. Breathing and inhaling essential oils can support you through the birthing process because they help to keep you more relaxed.
BIRTH OF THE PLACENTA
After the birth of the baby comes the birth of the placenta. After the placenta is delivered the uterus contracts causing the blood vessels to constrict. You will again feel an urge to push as the placenta detaches and slips out of the vagina. You may feel some shaking and pain in the vagina because it will be very tender. Follow your caregiver’s advise and relax the body by breathing.
Labour is called labour for one reason, because it takes a lot of work. No two births are the same and you will be going through a mired of emotions. One moment you may feel elated and the next angry. This is perfectly normal and knowing this gives you power. The power comes when you accept and allow the emotions to flow through your body without feeling bad about what you are expressing.
STRESS & ANXIETY
Labour is stressful and many women feel anxious, especially if it is your first birth because you don’t know what to expect. Many thoughts will be racing through your mind such as, how painful will it be, what if I can’t do it, why don’t they understand how I’m feeling, why did I get pregnant, or I never imaged labour would be like this. Honour your feelings and talk about them with your partner and health care provider. Being acknowledged works wonders and can shift your thoughts and emotions.
OVERWHELM & FEARFUL
During labour your emotions may be overwhelming and fearful. You may cry and feel that no one understands you or cares. It is good to be aware of this and to let your partner and health care provider know. There are specific essential oils that can be inhaled and massaged that can relax and soothe your nerves and lift your mood.
Anger can happen at any stage of labour; however, most women will experience it during the transition and birthing phases. It is common to feel frustrated, overwhelmed and this can lead to anger and lashing out. It is so important that you have an understanding support team with you so that you can feel safe to express your anger. There are many breathing techniques and certain essential oils that can calm you down so that you can focus on the birth.
There may be a time during your labour where you are exhausted and feel that you cannot continue. You may feel that you have no more energy, your body isn’t cooperating, and emotionally you don’t think you can do this. Many feel this way and it is good to acknowledge that you may feel the same. An encouraging team that holds you when you feel you can’t go on will do wonders. Breathing techniques combined with specific essential oils that lift the spirits and bring feelings of euphoria will give you the will to continue.
TROUBLE DEALING WITH PAIN
Labour and birth are painful. Contractions occur so that you can push the baby out of your body; however, many women fight against the contractions. Birth is a process and it brings you into the present moment. Breathing techniques help you to turn inward and flow along with the contraction. There are specific essential oils that can be used that regulate the breath and have slight analgesic effects on the body. Incorporating them will bring relief.
LACK OF COMMUNICATION
Often we think that someone understands our needs even though we have not communicated with them. This happens all the time but doesn’t work well during labour and birth. It is essential that you communicate what you need with your partner and health care provider. Share what you are feeling and what you need. Having a birth plan and discussing everything beforehand will create a calmer experience for you, your partner, and your baby.
Maternity rooms are sterile environments. They do their best, but they just are not serene and calm. There are many ways to change the mood of the room and help to create a sanctuary while going through the process of birth.
CREATING A CALM, SAFE SPACE
Babies are aware of the environment outside the womb such as the smells the mother inhales, the music she listens to, as well as her emotional state. By being aware of this you can create a space that is going to be soothing for you, your partner, and the baby.
CANDLES & SOFT LIGHTING
Creating a soft lighting environment will be beneficial to all. Candles create a mood that is quieting and calming. Having a couple of tea lights or an unscented candle can really shift the mood. It is not advised to use a scented candle even if it is your favourite scent because you may find the smell offensive during labour.
Music can soothe everything. Having music that you love will inspire and shift your mood. The baby can also hear the music you are playing. Choose your favourite songs and play them for your baby at any given moment during your pregnancy. This will be reassuring for both you and the baby.
Everything contains energy and crystals are powerhouses of energy. They have been used for eons and are amazing. They can be used to help you feel grounded, keep you focused, assist you to tap into your power, and provide a container of sacred space. Be open to this notion, it is recommended to place or hold certain crystals in the delivery room. This will magnify and strengthen your intention of having a peaceful and empowering birth experience.
PERSONALIZED ESSENTIAL OILS
Having personalized essential oils to use during labour and birth can make a lot of difference. They can relax the uterus and soften ligaments, work with the nervous system to support breathing, reduce anxiety, bring confidence, stimulate the circulation, and at the same time calm the body. Some oils even have pain relieving effects. Creating a personalized kit and knowing how to use it before labour is the key. It is also important that your partner and health care provider are informed and in agreement with your choices.
ITEMS THAT BRING COMFORT
Feeling comfortable and calm is so important and this is a personal choice. Spend some time before labour gathering items that comfort you. Choose things that you love and uplift you, whether it’s a bouquet of flowers, a stuffed animal, a book, or a keepsake. Just ask yourself and you will know what you need.
Cycles of Life
And How They Affect Your Health
Circle of Life Centre is designed to bring together various holistic healing modalities located in a natural setting. The mission of the Centre is to support those who are either beginning their journey in life or are in their twilight years. At the Centre we take you through a journey of healing based on where you are in your life. You may be at the beginning and starting a new life with your partner and baby. On the other hand, you or someone you love is at the end of life. It does not matter where you are on life’s journey. There is always support.
Janet Katalinic“Not only does Robyn have an innate sense of understanding what it means to suffer loss and have compassion for the topic of grief based on her own vast personal experiences but she has an amazing arsenal of coping strategies that she draws upon to help you with your own individual situation such as she did when helping me with coping with my ailing mother. In particular, she has helped me be self-aware and control the way I react to my mother to keep peace within myself rather than fight a situation that can’t be changed. This has been both very healing and inspiring, allowing me to spend my energy in a more positive, meaningful way.”
Nicole Seeger“Robyn has a true gift helping people with her plant medicine wisdom. Her rich experience, education, practical and intuitive understanding of what is needed when is unparalleled. She has helped myself, my husband and both of my kids to heal infections, colds, flus and supported us during times of grief and trauma. She has also been a wealth of wisdom when it comes to applying her vast knowledge for our general emotional, mental and physical wellbeing. It’s such a blessing to have Robyn’s loving and caring hands and deep wisdom close by to support and heal us whenever needed.”
Valri Cunningham“Robyn has very soothing energy and it has been very easy for me to open up to her. She puts you at ease in the first moments of meeting her. She is a pleasure to work with.”
Trudy Jakobsen“I have known Robyn Wyman for over 16 years. We met at Douglas College where we both were studying Aromatherapy. Robyn’s honesty and integrity shows in all endeavours she pursues. She has a gift of imparting her knowledge to others, showing a more natural and healthy way of living by using and making products that are not harmful to our bodies or the environment. A natural born healer of mind, body, and spirit.”
Marie Chang“I came to see Robyn after my brother passed away suddenly. I was shocked and going through the usual emotions of losing a loved one; anger, sadness, and great sense of loss. Robyn showed great caring and understanding and helped me to feel supported by listening, applying Natural Healing techniques and determining what I needed at that time. I think anyone suffering from grief and loss could benefit from what she has to offer.”
Alannah Leigh, Doula“I needed an Essential Oil Kit for my birth bag and I was so glad to have worked one-on-one with Robyn on this custom order. She has such in-depth knowledge. I was blown away on how well she knew what essential oils I would need and the particular dosages required to be safe for babies and pregnant mothers.”
Susan Wright“Robyn has helped me gain insight, wisdom, and profound healing through my grieving process. After losing both my parents in a short period of time, I was seeking information and guidance to navigate unresolved feelings rooted in trauma. She is an amazing resource of knowledge, and her unique abilities have been invaluable to me. Thank you Robyn.”
Leanne Labadie“Robyn’s healing energy is warm, grounded and nurturing. She has an angelic nature about her. I am going through a situation with a loved one and it has been very stressful and trying on me. Robyn has helped me to see that I am grieving what was and she has encouraged me to be present, grounded and to stay focused on the bigger picture. I am grateful for her wisdom and awareness. She is a gifted healer.”
Just as the fern gently unfolds to expand into its beautiful fullness, our hearts are spiralling into the truth that we are one.
- Robyn Wyman -